Who decides whether or not to judge us? Is it more us judging ourselves that allows other to believe that we aren't great the way we are, or do we unintentionally thrive on the views others have towards us? We see someone whisper and it's about us. We catch someone thinking and it's them making a 'face' at us. We jump to the conclusion that someone is judging us, every second of every day. Most people however, have better things to do with their time than spend every waking second devoted to our demise. In the long run though, do we do the same to others? Are we allowing judgement to be passed on us, because we are passing it ourselves?
The idea that we as a human race truly have NOTHING better to do with our lives than establish an idea on a person is rather sad. No one in the world can say that they haven't judged someone before. No one can say that even if they have, they knew everything about the person and their life before they did either. So why do we do it? Most people are competitive in nature, but striving to be better than every person, wouldn't we realize how much that will actually hurt us in the long run. There will always be someone who may not be as perfect as you though, as self-centered, as annoying, or as strong as we'd like to believe. There will always be people who may have a smile on their face, laughing, and being 'happy' while at the same time their entire life is falling apart.
This judgement that we pass can actually even cause more hurt than we may think, and often can be just enough to completely push someone over the edge. Those people who have their lives 'all together' tend to be the ones who have the hardest times. They have to maintain this life that they may not actually want, and at the same time they are being prosecuted by everyone for have this life. Because of this we ourselves start to question even more who we are, and why we are the way we are. Don't get me wrong this can be a good thing and can allow us to better ourselves. At the same time though, we can develop a lot of self-hate because we don't feel that we can make ourselves better, and already have come to hate what we are.
This judgement is brought full circle with this idea. We are judged because we allow the idea of being judged get to us. We feel that because someone else is judging us, we can judge ourselves, thus comparing ourselves and judging again. I know there probably won't be a time or a place were I can say I've walked in and not sized up my competition, checked for pretty girls, looked at the guys in the room, or decided if they people in there would be people I liked or even like me. But, if I can realize that I know I am not perfect and no one else is, then I can wait and see their imperfections that complete the person they are.
As people we should never say I'm sorry I can't be perfect, because we shouldn't want to be.
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